When you know that your loved one would benefit from care, discussing this with them can often be a difficult conversation. It is not easy for anyone to admit that they may need help as they get older, or with the onset of dementia, but this is something that should be addressed quickly, openly and honestly. Although this is difficult, this can ensure that your loved one gets the care that they need. If you are feeling nervous about this, discover our top tips for how to discuss care options with your loved one. 

How to Begin the Discussion 

It is important to have done your research, and to have chosen a few specific care homes or carers, beforehand. If at home care isn’t an option, have a few care home brochures ready. The suggestion of a respite stay may be a good way to introduce your loved one to the possibility of long-term care. Paying for care can often be a worry, so make sure you have researched what help is available for funding. 

You can explain to your loved one that care will actually provide additional independence, as the extra help will enable them to do more than they may be able to do alone. Keep a loving and relaxed tone to ease any anxiety or tension. It is also a good idea to have the conversation in a one-to-one setting, as too many people suggesting care can feel stressful and attacking. This is an emotional discussion, and it will take time for both you and your loved one to accept the decision. 

Define the Need for Care 

Be prepared to discuss the reasons why you believe care is necessary, especially if a healthcare professional has suggested potential care options after a recent incident, or if you are no longer able to meet their needs as a caregiver. 

It is better for your loved one to have help when they are no longer able to complete simple tasks alone. Care in any capacity will make their life easier, and will also relieve any worry you may be feeling. If the move to a care home is made, your loved one will also benefit from the activities and entertainment provided on a daily basis.

How to Talk to Someone with Dementia 

The conversation may be more complicated if your loved one is coping with dementia. Moving to a care home, or having someone enter their home to provide care, can cause anxiety and even invoke anger. Be patient, remain calm and reassuring. You can rely on the support and assistance of healthcare professionals or your local care home. 

How B&M Care Can Help 

B&M Care is here to help your family during this difficult time. After a thorough assessment of your loved one’s care needs, we provide high quality, in-depth care plans which are person-centred and specialist. Our staff are trained in expert dementia care, as per our Rose Model of Dementia Care. 

We understand that making the decision to move a loved one into a care home can be overwhelming. If you have any questions, or if you would like to book a tour at one of our 26 care homes, you can contact us at any time. We also run ‘Living Well with Dementia’ Discovery Events which are free and open to the public to provide extra support for your family.